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Wifes expectations for sex in marriage

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The dishwasher is quietly humming in the finally cleaned kitchen. The kids are in bed. The look that means "I want sex. Our relaxation evaporates, our skin bristles, or our muscles tense up.

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We may love and adore our partners—yet suddenly we are on the defensive. We may have even wanted sex before we saw the look, but now we find ourselves backpedaling. However, these outdated perceptions were reflected in the relationship model I saw growing up.

Why does this happen so...

From the outside, it looks like he wants sex and she doesn't—right? Women don't freeze when their partners want sex because they don't.

My client, Jill, said it perfectly: I thought about him on my drive home and even thought about having sex.

But the minute he looked at me, all that desire just went away. Instead, ironically, it was her husband's sexual overtures that dampened her desire. Well, simply put, it's about pressure. First you kiss, then you grope each other, then you have oral sex maybethen you finally make it to home base!

So, there's this perception that sex is one specific sequence of events that, once we set the precedent of having sex, seems to always be the goal.

After all, who stops at second base in a long-term relationship?


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