Big community funding update! What to do when you accidentally say I love you. August 19, 1: I've been dating a pretty awesome guy for a little over three weeks, and we both agree that the other is awesome. We are exclusive but not official because, holy crap, we've only been dating for three weeks.
Metafilter, please help me feel less awkward about this and give me stories about times when you've said "I love you" when you didn't mean it but were totally potentially on your way there and it worked out fine. I am a firm believer in that a special allowance should be made for the Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup post-coital "I love you.
I've done that before. It worked out fine. Things we say when under the influence of alcohol and hormones are not to be trusted further than they can be thrown, and most adults understand this.
As long as he's not a total Neanderthal, it should be alright. My friend said that after the girl he was with accidentally said Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup "I love you" about 10 seconds later she added, "when you do that to me. Just ignore it and move on. I said this while inebriated after the same amount of time as you mentioned and then we said it to each other for real the very next time we saw each other.
Just mentioning since it's amazing how much an accidental I love you can end up working out without ignoring it. I know someone who said it by a completely accidental fluke when getting off the phone with their boss "love you, bye" like you do getting off the phone with your SO or parent or whatever.
I think everyone knows things slip out sometimes. It will be fine. You are allowed that.
I did it once. We dated for four years after that.
My now-husband accidentally did that to me while falling asleep one night early in our relationship wasn't as early as three weeks, I think, but pretty close. I was just like, "dude! Do you know what you just said??
The fact that he's now my husband should indicate that it all worked out well. He may be in here to comment once he sees this question and will give you the other side of the story.
Once upon a time, I'd been with a guy about as long as you've been with yours when I accidentally Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup "I love you" earlier than I meant -- partially out of just completed sex glow, partially because I hadn't slept in a few days up which is like drinking but just no one knows your drunk but mostly because I totally felt it at the moment even though without the other two things I would have never said it.
And because I was so overwhelmed for the reasons listed and then overwhelmed with trying to take it back and explain it away, I started to cry uncontrollably. He calmed me the fuck down and we'll have been together 6 years this fall. I have said "OK bye, I love you!
Who I'd never met. Now that was an awkward follow up call Holy christ I do this all the time. I really hate talking on phones and get awkward and nervous and lose the ability to pay attention to what I'm saying--and sometimes I just run on autopilot.
I've said "love you, bye" to bosses, customer service representatives, Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup, not-close-enough friends I also tend to end voicemail messages by saying "thanks, jen" or "talk to you later, jen" as if I were signing an email.
This always results in me hanging up, thinking "wait a second, did I really just say that? But it always turns out OK. I accidentally referred to a girl I was dating as my girlfriend way earlier than I intended to.
We've been together 10 years as of May. Sounds like he's fine with it. Love should be freely given, honestly said when it's felt, with no expectation of the feeling being returned. Savor the emotion, enjoy it and revel in the power that it brings you, how it makes you feel alive.
To say I love you first is a brave thing, a good thing. You should be proud. But to answer your question, don't stress, it's not that big of a deal. I can beat that.
I met my boyfriend on a dating site and we'd been emailing and talking on the phone for less than a week when we met for the Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup time. We wound up spending the weekend together what can I say, it was just right and I said you-know-what during nookie some time during that weekend.
It was weird for a minute and he was a bit taken aback, as you might imagine, but we're still together and doing great 3 years later. Oh, and I work in a family business, but I'm not a member of the family, so I've gotten "I love you" from co-workers and supervisors a few times, just because they say it to each other all the time. No big deal--we laugh about it and go on.
Gosh, I get the honor of having done the accidental "I love you" to a new boyfriend AND to a mortgage borrower I had on the phone when I worked as a collector. Both worked out fine: He said it back we'd known each other for years and we are now married.
The borrower, an older lady, laughed delightedly and said, "Oh, honey! I love you, too! That's some good customer service, there! Three days after meeting my now boyfriend, we were falling asleep, and he told me "love you" in his sleep. I think because I didn't respond the first time. Somewhat confused, I just patted him on the head. I did, however, tease him mercilessly about that later.
A couple weeks after that, we were falling asleep when he asked me if I would marry him in 6 months. That one I've been forbidden from ever mentioning again.
I don't think it's really a big deal as long as your new guy doesn't conclude that you're a creeper. It will probably become very funny to you guys if it works out. At risk of seeming to contradict myself tonight on the green, I think someone who is lying naked in bed with you should be prepared to hear that. Pretty recently a girl I had been seeing started to say it to me in bed and caught herself and finished the sentence appropriately. What came out was "I love The year was Straight, male, year-old Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup was an up-and-freaking-comer on the Advanced Group social ladder: Somehow he had engineered to do the Group Project About Knights with the first-most-popular and second-most-popular kids in the class also both male -- a major coup, and his path to the big time -- a chance to edge out three and four!
Pride goeth before etc.
As the call wrapped up, he announced, "I love you, Grandma" to the world at large, then hung up in stupefied embarrassment, leaving that as his sole valediction, and leaving two confused popular kids on the line together to discuss his pending demotion to seventh-most-popular. We also assigned one another "ranks" -- CEO, CFO, all the way down to janitor -- and wrote up complex hierarchies of who could "fire" whom.
We must have been a very obnoxious Advanced Group. Saying i love you after 2 months of hookup finished the year in a respectable fifth place. In the throes of afterglow but under total self-control, I once said, "There is a sense in which I love you. Just got an email from her, decades later, saying, "I remember the joys of afternoon sex. During sexytimes early in a relationship, I once heard an "I love you" followed by a very loud "OOPS," complete with embarrassed hand-over-mouth gesture.
It was adorable, I was not creeped out.